Have you at any point felt like you were simply not adequate? That some way or another everyone else was able to find their path, but not you? Do you struggle in a particular area of your life, or even with life as a whole? Do you continue sitting tight for the minute when you will at long last arrive and feel like you have made it?
I have been there. I was certain that age 30 was the point at which I would find my full potential — that I would at long last progress toward becoming who I truly was and my identity intended to be.
When I turned 30, I was shocked to realize that I was not where I had envisioned. I wasn’t where I wanted to be. A long way from it.
How had I landed at this spot in my life and still felt like I had such a great amount to do to get where I needed to be with my career, my health, or my personal life? With such a significant number of questions?
I was furious at myself for being so indeterminate about my future. Furious at all of those individuals who as far as anyone knows had everything made sense of. Furious that I had essentially nothing figured out at this point.
Making a change was the last thing on my mind. I attempted to remain occupied and ignore my issues, so I could stay away from the contemplations that were harming me to such an extent.
Stop Running Away and Start Running Toward
After numerous long stretches of uncertainty and self-hatred, I chose to begin confronting the issues plaguing my life, in order to understand what was happening. Why I was feeling such a great amount of outrage toward myself? Feeling so insufficient?
From that reflection, I understood that my frailties originated from my failure to look forward and reach for more. More experiences. More failures. More successes. More meaning.
I’ve always held back from putting myself out there and making a change, because I was worried about what would happen and how it would feel to fail.
Realizing this, I concluded that in order for things to change, I needed to begin from some place, regardless of whether it was from the earliest starting point again — to assemble the life and profession I needed — and that implied managing vulnerability head on.
Humans are wired with a need to control everything we can. When we let go of that control, we can comprehend that change is a consistent piece of life.
Don’t Hold Back
When we begin something new, there are such a large number of things we are questionable about.
It was useful for me to reframe these moments of vulnerability and the results of these new activities as openings to learn.
By taking small risks, we move out of our usual range of familiarity and into the learning zone.
We can reframe results that did not go as arranged not as slip-ups but rather as great approaches to get criticism and gain some new useful knowledge.
When In Doubt – Start With Small Changes
The main thing steady in life is change. To completely grasp vulnerability we should supplant dread of the obscure with interest.
With an inquisitive mentality, we can see the new pathways that point toward our dreams and aspirations.
Is it accurate to say that you are prepared to grasp vulnerability and manufacture the existence you need?
That is why I challenge you to begin with small changes in a single aspect of your life. Ignore the big picture and focus on improving that one area by even the smallest amount. By starting small, you can make the necessary improvements in your life without feeling overwhelmed or frightened of the major changes everyone dreads to confront.
The world is sitting tight for us to recount our stories and experience our fantasies. We should begin to do so.